Congrats! You Said Yes- Now What?


He or She popped the question. You said yes. Hooray! You’re engaged! Here’s what to do next (you know, right after you call your mom).

1. Call your Relatives- Even the Ones You Don’t Really Speak To

In this day and age it can be very tempting and easy to shoot out 140 characters or a picture to your social media but it is an engagement no-no to not pick up the phone and call your family members and friends. All of them. It is courtesy to take the time to individually let them know especially since you hope they will be participating in your upcoming celebrations. Yes- that can be daunting but you can enlist your mom, sister, aunt, or another family representative to help you out.

2. Make Sure Your Nails are Manicured
Your left hand is going to be a hot commodity the next few weeks and you may wint the people you are sharing your big news with to notice the ring and not your chipped manicure. Plus it is a great way to celebrate with your closest gals.

3. Get Your Ring Sized- ASAP
Your newest bling is gorgeous and of course you want to show it off but the last thing that you want to happen is to lose it the day after you get it. Resizing rings can take as little as a few hours, or at most, a few days.

4. Get Your Ring Insured
Nothing can replace the sentimental value of your ring, but heaven forbid something happens to it, at least you will be able to get the money back. If you have homeowner’s or renter’s insurance call to add it to your policy. You may need to get an official appraisal so call your broker to find out what paperwork you may need.

5. Set a Date- Even If It’s Not the Date
Right after everyone says “congratulations” and “let me see your ring” the first question will be “when is the wedding?” People appreciate feeling like they are in the loop and want to put the vague-yet-specific date in their mental planners. Answers such as “we’re shooting for early 2018” or “we like the idea of next fall” work well to give you and your future spouse some direction as you start planning the details.

6. Create a Wedding Blog
Now that you have followed rule number one and told your family and friends the good news the next step is to set up a blog or wedding website to keep everyone up to date of your nuptial news. They are fantastic because you can post photos, write your “how we met story”, have a guest book and you can make it as personal and interactive as you want. As more of the planning details come to fruition, you can get fancy with wedding details, hotel advice, maps, out of town guide etc. Send it around to those who ask, but be prepared if only you mom and BFF want to read it.

7. Get Inspiration and LOTS of It
Get a bunch of wedding magazines, blog stalk engagement sites, get on Pinterest and pin away! Give yourself permission to turn your brain into your own wedding channel. Now is the time to collect ideas and learn what inspires you and also realize what you don’t want in your wedding.

8. Spend a Night Out With Just Your Finance
Wedding planning and the parties and celebrations that you two will be attending will not leave you two with much one-on-one time. Yes there is a ton to do but it is perfectly okay to hit the town and celebrate- just the two of you.

9. Get a Wedding Planner
No- we’re not talking about a person just yet! You should purchase a datebook, calendar, iPhone app to help keep a timeline of major wedding tasks and events. Trust us, there is going to be a ton of details and dates to keep up with so you’re going to want them easily accessible in one place.

10. Determine a Realistic Budget
We have told you to daydream and go crazy on getting inspiration for your dream wedding but every couple has a different budget to work with. You will have a wonderful wedding day and need to figure out what the hard numbers are to move forward in the planning process. Some questions to think about- Do you want to choose a local venue or be willing to travel a bit further for the venue that suits your style? How many people will you invite to the wedding? Is there a specific time of year that you want to get married (spring and summer weddings can be more costly for venues)? Open full bar or wine and beer? Sit down dinner or buffet style? How many or what type of flower arrangements/decor would you like?
Did we just overwhelm you? Beathe- the average engagement last a year and a half so not not everything has to be decided the first two weeks that you are engaged! The most important part is to enjoy making these memories with your fiance, family, and friends!


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